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The “good” guys who conflate sex work and sex trafficking, who assume all sex work to be tantamount to abuse, felt sorry for me.

Almost invariably, they concluded I must have deep-seated psychological issues that meant our relationship would never become serious.

Even worse, the report found some sex workers internalized the stigma of their profession and viewed themselves as deserving of punishment and abuse from their partners. Almost ten years ago, when I first stopped drinking and was just getting out of the sex industry, I fell into a relationship with a man who made me feel ashamed of my then-recent past.

It took six years, but I eventually found the courage to leave.Whether you’re a dancer or an escort, a porn star or a cam girl, the same questions arise: how and when to tell the person you’re dating, and then, how to manage their reaction (they always have one). Regardless of occupation, not everybody wants a committed, monogamous relationship. Even before high school, when I met and started dating a man I nearly married, I knew I wanted the kind of “normal” family I’d never had growing up.My father, never very emotionally present to begin with, left our family just as soon as I turned 18 (I haven’t seen him since).I knew that, deep down, he was still angry, we were both confused, and I was ashamed. As a call girl on Craigslist, I sold GFE, or “the girlfriend experience.” For the right price, I played the part of a partner, minus the commitment and responsibility.Similarly, besides getting paid, I got many of the benefits of a boyfriend— compliments, sex, someone to talk to — minus the emotional risk.

In most cases, I saved the big reveal for the fourth date.