Only dating week
We were friends for 6 months prior to dating, so you could say I knew what I was getting into: that he's very busy with other things in his life.I know he's trying, but at what point does being busy become an excuse?My boyfriend doesn’t need to see me all the time and that works perfectly me.It might not be for everyone, but it works for us and that’s what matters.At what point am I being "understanding" and at what point am I just settling for whatever scraps of time he can give me? Or would you stick it out for another couple months or so to see if things change?I've pretty much come to terms with the situation, that he's either 1) truly too busy to invest in seeing me more, or 2) not into me enough to *make* more time to do so. He doesn’t have anything to do here, so he expects me to feed him and entertain him. One week really isn’t a long time to go without seeing the guy I’m dating.
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If I just see him once a week, I have no problem putting work and my routines aside because I want to hang out with him — not because I have no choice. I’m pretty confident that I’d lose my mind and start to feel smothered if we suddenly started seeing each other too often.
I’m sure as our relationship progresses we’ll gradually start spending more time together, but it will be because it feels natural, not because it’s what you’re “supposed to do.” I want someone who has his own life too.
We don’t live together, so we don’t have to see each other every day. In fact, I need a good amount of alone time so I don’t go crazy.
We’d rather hang out less often and actually do something and be able to focus on each other than see each other every day and start taking our time together for granted. I’m around people all day at work, so sometimes at night I just want to come home and watch TV or read a book by myself.
Just because I’m not busy with work doesn’t mean I automatically want to be hanging out with my boyfriend. Fitting everything in isn’t always easy, but it’s important to me that I still have a social life.