Gay dating red flags
If your intent is to act as the emotional equivalent of FEMA, providing post-disaster comfort and relief, then by all means mobilize to the scene. Red flags: Appears overly emotional when discussing the ex; habitually discusses the ex, tying in references to her in numerous situations; makes comparisons between you and the ex. That said, no one really wants to be taken advantage of financially, right?
But if you’re looking for something a little more long-term, you may find that it’s not much fun being Ms. And assuming the role of fiscal authority figure in the relationship isn’t exactly a turn on either.
However, if your new girlfriend peppers every discussion with, “Oh, that reminds me of the time my ex …” or frequently insists on changing the radio station because “that song reminds me of my ex” or, even worse, tears up when discussing her ex, you may have caught her just a wee bit too early in the healing process.
It’s perfectly okay for her to say, “I’m not really that close to my family,” if that’s the case.
However, if she shares the full details of every little family feud — including accusations of infidelity, addiction and/or abuse — she’s in violation of first-few-dates protocol.
If you don’t want to spend the rest of your life (or even just the rest of the week) entangled in petty squabbles, this is not the woman for you.
Red flags: Few/no friends; has left/been let go from more than one job due to “personality conflicts;” subtly (or not-so-subtly) picks at your friends; frequent disagreements/arguments in the very early stages of the relationship. BOUNDARY BLASTER While I would never encourage anyone to be disingenuous when getting to know someone new, there’s a definite line between honesty and overload.
Red flags: Shares intimate details of her life extremely early in the relationship; demonstrates overly clingy behavior; begins giving up her own friends, interests, etc., to adapt to yours; uses manipulation to get what she wants; extreme jealousy. EX EXCESS Chances are if you’re over the age of 16 you have an ex.