Friendship first dating later
But consistently worrying about the state of your friendship with every new step you take in your romantic development is just no good.
“A couple who goes through a breakup might then have to negotiate how they’ll share their network of friends, says Dr. "But at the point where they’re a couple, I don’t think it benefits them to keep saying ‘Ok, if we break up, what’s going to happen?
We depend on and our romantic partners depend on us way more than we do as friends."Figuring out how to deal with jealousy, or meshing your schedules together, or helping each other through bigger life problems you never knew about before are all a part of it.
It's not as simple as grabbing a random coffee like you used to.
" but with him, you already have a pretty good sense of who he is because you've spent the last year hanging out with him like pals. He knows that you start imagining he's dead on the side of the road when he doesn't text you back for eight hours so he does his best not to make you think he's dead. If he's the type of guy who would've been your friend whether you eventually dated or not, he's already the best kind of guy to date.“If you hold those beliefs, you might take any sort of stumbling as a sign that it’s a problem and this relationship that isn’t worth pursuing, rather than recognizing little points of awkwardness and stumbling as something you can work on,” says Dr. Accept that your relationship will get more complicated.Just because you get to regularly bone your cool friend now doesn't mean that that's all your relationship will entail.Theresa Di Donato, Associate Professor of Psychology at Loyola University."It can give you a safe space to see if the other person flirts back.” It doesn't have to be anything too overt right away – we started off with dressing room selfies where we asked each other's opinions on outfits we already knew we looked really good in.
Here are seven things to keep in mind if you're two friends thinking of dating each other:1. It can be tough to suss out if you have mutual feelings when you're already jokey and sweet to each other.