Dad with shared custody dating
And even then, it's not like I leapt from a cake and shouted, "I AM YOUR NEW MOM!!!!!!!!!!! I'm still just a buddy who kicks it from time to time to join in on eating pizza or playing "balloon" or the occasional ride home from school.When and if my boyfriend wants to explain my role in his life to his child, that's not really up to me.Suddenly the jokes seemed a little creepy, and although I actively pumped the brakes on making them, those familiar with my menagerie of hot dad puns rose a skeptical eyebrow. Hotness aside, there's some unexpected things that happen when you date a single dad.I've dated ("dated") divorced dudes before, which might be a little similar, but this relationship marks my first with a parent.Playing Mother to a series of adult Peter Pans got old, so this kind of attitude is a very welcome change of pace. If your cat got secretly sick and he steps barefoot into a pile of barf, he doesn't love it but he understands that happens (probably because he has experience direct skin-to-someone else's-barf contact before).He also doesn't panic about periods or farts or other body stuff.I'd like to say this exercise made me resurrect toxic romantic relationships as healthy friendships, but that hasn't quite happened yet (and with some specific ones, I honestly can't see that ever happening).More than anything, I think it's helped me recognize the hard fact that all humans have faults and, in general, good intentions. (Though to be fair, I can't take credit for the calendar.
It inspires you to be more mindful of your own spending habits. Like when you're running late to meet a friend because you're stuck in a child-stuffed lantern parade one town over, you're not allowed to bitch and force your S. to help you summon an Uber to pick you up, STAT—because he's too busy pushing the kid on a skateboard inside the festivities to indulge your princess agenda.
It's a discussion he and I can have, but it's not my endeavor to pilot.
It's fun to make fun of Oldsters until you realize you are now one.
We had a lot of wine and played loud punk and soon it was gleaming. With a child and full-time job and other luxurious duties such as bathing oneself and staying fed (AND keeping the kid fed), cleaning falls to the wayside.
Besides not having enough time to clean, kids are just miraculously mess-inducing machines. As such, I try to see this situation as an opportunity to relax my OCD tendencies and work to become a more patient, understanding person.
It's kinda unbelievably cute to watch them nerd out on fatherhood together. Granted, I'm a fairly petite person and my boyfriend's child is seven.